- From "Destiny of Souls"
'In a broad sense, love is endearment, which can take many forms in life. There is always a mental connection of one sort or another with a soulmate, regardless of the role they play.We connect with people on many levels for a multitude of karmic lessons in every life.
When friendship catches fire it turns to love, but without abiding friendship deep love cannot thrive. This is quite different from infatuation, which exists on a superficial level where we have those nagging doubts about whether the connection has any real meaning. Without trust, intimacy suffers and love cannot grow. Love is acceptance of all imperfections of our partners. True love makes you better than you would be without that person in your life.
People often equate love with happiness. Yet happiness is a state of mind that must develop within you and not be dependent upon someone else. The most healthy kind of love is one where you already feel good about yourself and so extending your love to someone else is totally unselfish. Love takes hard work and continual maintenance. I have had numerous divorced subjects who learn that their first loves were primary soulmates. Things might have worked out if they both tried harder.
On the other hand, there may be reasons why we might not meet our primary soulmate until later in life. Soulmates will from time to time seperate for a life or two and not appear at all. "My soulmate & I were becoming too dependent upon each other, we needed to grow while on our own" is a statement I often hear when soulmates are apart. Every era on Earth is different as to the sort of attachment and experience we will have with a soulmate. However, each life with them builds upon former lives.
We learn valuable lessons from broken relationships. The important thing is to move on in life. Some clients may tell me before their session that true love seems to elude them. After the session they usually understand the reasons behind the situation. If the right love for you does not come along, liberate yourself with the understanding that you may be here to learn other lessons. We mistakenly assume people who choose to live alone are lonely when actually they have rich lives that are calm, reflective and productive. Connecting with someone for whom you have no feelings just for the sake of not being alone is more lonely than being by yourself. As the song says, "Falling in love with love is falling for make-believe." This kind of love is a fantasy because it's driven by an addiction to have love at any price. If your soulmate is supposed to appear they will come into your life, often when you least expect it. '
A primary, or principal soulmate is frequently in our life as a closely bonded partner. This partnership may be our spouse, brother or sister, a best friend, or occasionally a parent. No other soul is more important to us than a primary soulmate and when my subjects describe lives with these souls as their mates most will say their existence is enriched beyond measure. One of the greatest motivations for souls to incarnate is the opportunity for expression in physical form. This is certainly an attraction for primary soulmates...
Primary soulmates exist to help one another achieve goals.
Our primary soulmate is our eternal partner, but we have other souls in our primary cluster group who can be called soulmates. Essentially, they are our soul companions.
Affiliated Souls There are certain affiliated souls in groups who are selected to work with us whom we come to know over many lives, while others only cross our path briefly. Quite often our parents come from one of these nearby cluster groups. A soul affiliate might have a specific characteristic that is exactly what is needed to bring karmic lesson into your life. They are likely to incarnate as people who carry strong positive or negative energy into their association with you.'